There are several songs that have delved into narcissism and being a narcissist, but with so many to choose from, do you know which ones are considered the best?
We’re going to detail 21 songs about narcissists that have become iconic, so look below to find out what made the cut!
1. You’re So Vain – Carly Simon
First on our list is the song everyone thinks about when you talk about a narcissist, the hit song by Carly Simon, You’re So Vain from 1972. While rumored to be about James Taylor, this song goes into the behaviors of a narcissist in a relationship. The arrogance, vain nature, and how he would rather be with his friends and dump his woman are still as relevant today as when the song was written.
The song reached number one on the Billboard Hot 100 and Adult Contemporary charts.
2. Toxic – Britney Spears
In 2003 Britney Spears released Toxic, which is exactly what a narcissist is and the type of relationship you’ll have with one. While in the song, Britney knows the person is bad for them, she just can’t get enough of him, even while recognizing how toxic he is to be around. At a point, it becomes addicting, and she talks about how this man has her addicted to him, and it’s too hard to quit him.
The song was instantly popular and made it to number one in the Mainstream Top 40 and Hot Digital Tracks chart. It also landed on the Rhythmic chart at number 16.
Recommended: Songs about toxic love and relationships
3. Blank Space – Taylor Swift
Up next is Taylor Swift with her hit Blank Space from her 2014 album 1989. This song talks about how many young people are narcissists and what that means. She mentions how being young means you don’t care about anyone but yourself and getting what you want.
There is a lot of emotion in this song, and it’s the best song to capture the essence of young adulthood and the lack of empathy that comes with that age.
4. Fame – David Bowie
In 1975 David Bowie released Fame, which goes into how being famous leads to narcissistic behavior and how suddenly having all that attention can go to your head very quickly. The guy in the song loves how he gets all of this attention and feels like he can take over the world, but he’s way too cool for everyone else to hang out with.
It makes a case for fame being the reason people become shallow and hollow.
5. Can’t Tell Me Nothing – Kanye West
In 2007 Kanye West released Can’t Tell Me Nothing, a song that goes into how great he is and how awesome he is because he has money and the hottest bling around. This isn’t going to be the first time Kanye appears on our list because he is the perfect example of a narcissist and often sings about it in his songs.
The ending of this song details how he is so rich, and the arrogance in the song is profound.
6. Girl – The Beatles
Next on our list is the Beatles with their hit song Girl from 1965, which goes into a girl thinking she’s the best thing on Earth and believing she’s better than everyone else. She even thinks she is better than her partner and how she talks down to him because she thinks she is so much better than he is.
While most songs on our list are about the narcissist being a guy, The Beatles made it clear in their song that girls can be just as narcissistic and horrible as guys.
7. No More Drama – Mary J. Blige
Hip Hop artist Mary J. Blige had success with her song No More Drama from 2001, in which she details being done with all of the drama. If you’ve dealt with a narcissist, then you know how much drama goes on with them and how it’s just a headache to be around them. This is the anthem for everyone who has had to deal with a narcissist and how you’re just over it at some point.
The song reached number one on the Dance Single Sales chart, Dance Club Songs chart, and 15 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart.
8. I’m Too Sexy – Right Said Fred
Next on our list is a famous song from 1992: I’m Too Sexy by Right Said Fred, and this pop song is an iconic example of narcissism. In the song, the guy talks about how he’s way too hot for his clothes, the city, and his car.
A classic song about how a narcissist views themselves as the best-looking person in the world and is too good for everyone and everything, this song has remained a staple.
It reached number one on the Billboard Hot 100 chart and the Hot Dance Music/Maxi-Singles Sales chart. It also landed at four on the Hot Dance Club Play chart and 28 on the Billboard Modern Rock Tracks chart.
9. Liar – Henry Rollins Band
A comical song we have to mention on our list is Henry Rollins Band with their iconic 1994 hit song Liar. You may remember this song because it was famously made fun of on Beavis & Butt-Head. The beginning is more jazz-sounding, and then you hear the guitar and cymbals. It just goes in a weird direction from there, with Rollins singing in a monotone voice that sounds evil.
He talks in the song about being a liar and goes into all of the traits a narcissist has, and it’s just great and will have you laughing. Liar reached 40 on the Mainstream Rock chart and 26 on the Alternative Airplay chart. It is the most famous Henry Rollins song.
Recommended: The best songs about lying and being a liar
10. Under My Thumb – The Rolling Stones
Up next is the Rolling Stones with their hit song Under My Thumb from 1966, which delves into narcissism and how the guy in the song controls his girl and tells her she can’t wear clothes that he doesn’t want her to wear. It goes into how she can’t talk without his approval and is the best example of what life with a narcissist is like since they are so controlling and demanding.
This was one of the most popular songs from The Rolling Stones.
11. I Don’t Care Anymore – Phil Collins
Phil Collins doesn’t need an introduction, and his song I Don’t Care Anymore is all about being around a narcissist to the point that you just don’t care anymore. He’s done with the lies, manipulation, hurt, and betrayal of dealing with a narcissist.
In the song, he talks about not wanting to be hurt anymore, and the fuzz effect makes it appear that it’s getting better after getting away from the person.
12. Rap God – Eminem
Speaking of narcissism, we have to mention Eminem and his hit song Rap God which he released in 2013 from his album The Marshall Mathers LP 2. In this infamous hip hop song, Eminem compares himself to God, so you can’t be any more of a narcissist than that!
He raps he’s the best out there, and while he’s really good, saying he’s God or as good as God is a bit much. The song reached number two on the Hot R&B/Hip Hop Songs chart and seven on the Billboard Hot 100 chart.
Recommended: The top Eminem songs
13. For Her – Fiona Apple
Next is Fiona Apple, who released For Her in 2020 off of her hit album Fetch The Bolt Cutters, and it’s all about a guy that’s a narcissist and how he treats his woman horribly, such as making her clean up after him. The song is dark and somber, talking about sexual assault, betrayal, and even substance abuse issues.
14. Narcissist – Baby Queen
In 2021 on the album The Yearbook, South African singer Baby Queen wrote Narcissist, a pop song about her obsession with herself. She admits she is a narcissist in the song but then asks you what you’re going to do about it, and the song was written about her own experiences and tendencies.
15. I Love Kanye – Kanye West
We can’t talk about narcissists without talking about one of the more relevant examples today: Kanye West. In 2016 he released the song I Love Kanye, which delves right into the fact he loves himself and how much he misses the old him.
Everyone at the time he wrote this song was talking about how self-centered he was, and he went ahead and just admitted it on this track. It reached 48 on the Hot R&B/Hip Hop Songs chart and 14 on the Billboard Bubbling Under Hot 100 Singles chart.
16. Don’t Come Around Here No More – Tom Petty and the heartbreakers
Calling all Tom Petty fans, Tom Petty released Don’t Come Around Here No More in 1985 on his Southern Accents album. It’s a song revolving around the fact that the ones that hurt the most are the people surrounding the narcissist. The best way to avoid being hurt, hearing all of the lies, and suffering is just to get away from them, and that’s the premise of this song.
It became a hit for Petty, making it to number two on the Billboard Album Rock Tracks chart and number 13 on the Billboard Hot 100.
17. I Want You To Want Me – Cheap Trick
Released in 1977 off of the alum In Color, the song I Want You To Want Me by Cheap Trick is all about being a narcissist and how, no matter what, they think they need to get their way regardless. When someone turns down a narcissist, they can’t handle it, which is what this song is about.
18. You Don’t Own Me – Lesley Gore
Next on our list is Lesley Gore with her 1963 hit You Don’t Own Me, which is the perfect song to play if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist and are finally leaving a toxic situation. Anyone that’s been around a narcissist knows that they are dominating and think they control everything, and this song is all about saying that’s not true and that they aren’t as powerful as they think.
The song reached 57 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart and 22 on the Mainstream Top 40 chart, becoming one of her most well-known songs.
19. Linger – The Cranberries
Popular Irish band, The Cranberries, released Linger in 1993 from their album Everybody Else Is Doing It, So Why Can’t We? The song is about being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t care, and it details narcissistic behavior. While we should care for the person we love, this song brings about the pain of dealing with a narcissist.
It reached number eight on the Billboard Hot 100 and seven on the Mainstream Top 40 charts. On the Alternative Airplay chart, it peaked at number four and is one of the most iconic and famous songs from The Cranberries.
20. Holier Than Thou – Metallica
Up next is a band we know you’ve heard of before, and they are metal and rock superstars. Metallica released Holier Than Thou in 1991, and this song is all about being better than everyone else and being perfect.
A narcissist thinks they are better than everyone else, so it works perfectly, and it’s about having a big head and ego. You could say that the band itself has a huge ego and is the best example of narcissism.
21. Applause – Lady Gaga
Finally, we have to mention Applause by Lady Gaga, which was released in 2013 off of her album Artpop. The classic song is about how a narcissist craves nothing but attention, and Lady Gaga asks for attention in the song without shame. She is asking fans to give her applause ad attention and to let her know they are all in love with her music.
The song hit number one on the Dance Club Songs and Hot Dance/Electronic Songs charts. It also made it to number four on the Billboard Hot 100 and Mainstream Top 40 chart.
From the time she was little, Florence loved listening to music and quickly learned how music can make you happy and feel fulfilled. One of her favorite memories is being in the garage with her dad working on classic cars with the local rock station blaring in the background. Ever since Florence was 3, she loved grunge music and spent hours listening to bands such as Alice in Chains, Mad Season, Soul Asylum, and Soundgarden.
She also enjoys classic rock, modern rock, nu metal, alternative rock, and old 90’s R&B. Her love of music grew as she got older, and used music to help her get through tough times in her life. More often than not, you’ll see Florence with earbuds in while she’s writing, cooking, cleaning, and doing other tasks. She also loves to debate music with her friends such as which lead singer is the best vocalist, the most iconic guitar solos in music, and what songs are really the best of the decade.