Miscarriages are one of the most tragic and traumatic events one can go through. As I sit here writing this, I’m feet away from a pregnant partner and absolutely can’t imagine what it’s like to go through something so difficult, so I’m not a fan of writing this. It isn’t something that’s going to be easy to get over, and it will probably have a lasting impact on one’s life. But music is an amazing healer, and if it can’t help you heal, it may help you cope and grieve. Here are 25 songs about miscarriage and coping with it.
1. Who You’d Be Today – Kenny Chesney
Who You’d Be Today is a bit ambiguous as far as the age of the child in question, but that isn’t particularly important. The message of the song is what matters, and this one gives you a healthy way to imagine what life would be like with your lost child in it and who they would be in the future. It’s something that will help by giving you something to relate to and having something positive to think about rather than your grief.
2. Gone Too Soon – Daughtry
A miscarriage will have a massive impact on any mother, but it’s also a terrible thing to go through with an expecting father. Daughtry’s song Gone Too Soon is about a father mourning the loss of an unborn child. He spends his time pondering who they would have been and what it would be like to be fortunate enough to be a part of this small child’s life.
3. Little Invitro – Gary Numan
You aren’t going to recover from the trauma of a miscarriage quickly, that’s an unfortunate fact. But it doesn’t help when people say something like ‘time will heal you’ or ‘it’ll take time but you’re okay.’ It’s almost going to feel like they’re minimizing your current pain. Little Invitr” by Gary Numan subscribes to the sentiment a lot of people must agree with after losing a child. How could time heal such a deep wound?
4. See You Again – Carrie Underwood
For a song to work in this situation, it doesn’t really have to be about miscarriages. Carrie Underwood’s See You Again is about losing an important person in your life and the mourning that follows. It’s a great track to help you cope, and just like the narrator of the song, you too can find comfort in the people around you and the fact that the person that’s lost is up there watching you from among the stars.
5. Heaven – Beyoncé
It’s been rather public that Beyoncé and Jay-Z suffered a miscarriage at one point in their relationship, so at the very least you can rest assured the artist singing this song knows exactly what it’s like to be in your shoes. Heaven was the subject of a lot of speculation, but it was likely about a miscarriage and the feelings of grief and loss that come with it. The chorus is especially poignant, stating that “Heaven couldn’t wait for you,” which is as comforting a sentiment as you can get for such a tragedy.
6. Beam Me Up – Pink
No matter how brave a face you put on or how strong you try to be, losing a child is something that can break anyone. It’s something nobody should ever have to experience, and it’s a hellish experience that nobody deserves. P!nk’s Beam Me Up captures the sentiments of those strong women well, discussing how at some point she got tired of fighting and just wants to spend one minute with the person she lost.
7. I Would Die For That – Kellie Coffey
It’s no secret that some women struggle with fertility and others develop health problems when they’re pregnant that can make it difficult to carry a child successfully. I Would Die For That by Kelie Coffey comes at miscarriage from that perspective. It’s a heartbreaking song about wanting to be a mom that may not be the right choice for you if you’ve had a recent miscarriage but definitely speaks to the gravity of the situation.
8. Your Hands – JJ Heller
Your Hands is less about miscarriages and more about finding comfort while you cope with a difficult situation. JJ Heller’s song is all about feeling the comforting hands of God reaching down when your heart is breaking. For the religious, this can be a very comforting sentiment and one that you can really hold on to as you try to deal with one of the most traumatic experiences possible.
9. Glory – Jay-Z Feat. Blue Ivy Carter
Jay-Z and Beyoncé dealt with a miscarriage a few years ago, with both of them releasing tracks about it. While Glory celebrates the birth of the pair’s daughter Blue Ivy Carter, it also mourns the loss from their miscarriage and talks about how scary it was to try again. Having that baby healed a lot of pain for the couple, and it’s a song about miscarriages that carries a message of future hope with it that just might ease a little bit of your own pain.
10. Small Bump – Ed Sheeran
Ed Sheeran took on the topic of miscarriages in his song Small Bump. It tells the heart-wrenching story of a woman who lost her baby four months into her pregnancy. Not a track for the faint of heart; he says that the child was just a little bump that was taken far too soon. Maybe they were needed elsewhere, but the saddest part of it is that we just don’t get any answers.
11. More – Halsey
Halsey is another artist who has struggled with reproductive health and has a lot of painful memories related to past miscarriages. In all honesty, there might not be a better artist to listen to if it’s a situation you’re currently trying to deal with. More is all about the ‘little feet’ that were lost and the agonizing effects a miscarriage has on an expecting mother.
12. Thy Will – Hillary Scott
Hillary Scott may be the lead singer of Lady Antebellum, but she went solo for Thy Will after she suffered a miscarriage in 2015. It’s an incredibly relatable song that speaks to the oft-forgotten aspect of a miscarriage. The pressure from others to act as if it didn’t happen or get over it is almost as shocking as the miscarriage itself.
13. I Still Know You – Jacob Lee
Jacob Lee wrote I Still Know You as a tribute to a child he lost all too soon. He didn’t get to spend the time he wanted to with the baby and knows he won’t even be able to hear their voice one day, but he believes he will still be able to know them if they ever do get to meet again.
14. Something’s Not Right – Lily Allen
Lily Allen experienced a stillbirth in 2010, and five years later, she would write a song about it. She said she delivered a beautiful baby boy, but he didn’t make it, something as tragic and traumatic as it is terrifying for new parents. Something’s Not Right would be a feature of the 2015 film Pan. It was a hard track for her to do, but it touched a special place in a lot of people’s hearts.
15. You Wouldn’t Cry (Andrew’s Song) – Mandisa
You Wouldn’t Cry (Andrew’s Song) by Mandisa is a track that will make you break down into tears and might be a hard pill to swallow for some. It takes a unique approach, speaking from the perspective of the person who has died. It’s a heartwarming message of comfort though, telling you that you shouldn’t be crying because they are at peace and with God now, so you don’t need to worry about them being alone or afraid.
16. Heaven Needed You More – Mikalene Ipson
It’s not really that comforting to think your child was taken to Heaven because they were needed there more than with you, but at the very least, they’re somewhere beautiful and happy. Heaven Needed You More by Mikalene Ipson is going to make you sob into a pillow and is one of the best descriptions of how a loss so terrible feels.
17. Let Me Go – Gary Barlow
Gary Barlow wrote Let Me Go as a tribute to the daughter he lost after a miscarriage. It carries the emotional weight of the devastation he and his wife went through and was meant to celebrate the life that never happened and help the couple heal from the loss.
18. Spark – Tori Amos
Tori Amos is a songwriter who you can turn to if you’re going through a miscarriage, as she wrote Spark about her own experiences dealing with one. It truly shows the pain and doubts she has had to deal with in one of the rawest ways possible. She feels like a failure for what has happened. It’s never the right choice to blame yourself for something as awful as this, but her doing so in this track is likely something a lot of expecting mothers who’ve suffered a miscarriage will be able to relate to.
19. I Will Carry You (Audrey’s Song) – Selah
If you need a track to try to relate to, you’ll be hard-pressed to find a better one for this terrible situation. Selah’s I Will Carry You (Audrey’s Song) is from the perspective of a mother who has lost her baby and spends time reflecting on the life of her unborn daughter that will never come to be. Perhaps the most relevant part of the track is when she says she’s barely hanging on, so at the very least, there’s one part to describe the pain you’re going through.
20. Nothing is Wasted – Jason Gray
Nothing Is Wasted is all about how God uses pain to test us, help us grow, and lead us to Him. While it isn’t explicitly talking about miscarriage in the song, it’s undeniably a track that will help many Christians find some level of comfort.
21. Angel – Sarah McLachlan
Sarah McLachlan’s—likely—most favorite song might have been used for a lot of ASPCA commercials, but that in no way diminishes the raw emotion of the track. Angel is one of the rawest songs you can put on and it will undoubtedly make you cry until you have no tears left.
22. Heartbeat (Life Is But A Dream) – Beyoncé
Heartbeat (Life Is But A Dream) is the shortest song on this list, lasting only seven lines. It still has all of the emotional power in it that you’d expect from a mother who lost a baby though, and it was a big feature in the HBO documentary about her life and story.
23. Glory Baby – Watermark
Watermark’s Glory Baby might bring you a little comfort as you cry uncontrollably. The lines in the song speak of a miscarriage by saying that heaven will get to hold them long before they ever do, but they take comfort in the fact that the child will be safe until they finally meet up with them again and get the chance to hold their child.
24. Bottle By My Bed – Sunny Sweeney
Bottle By My Bed is a song for mothers who desperately want a child and are frustrated by having to wait for one. It’s a song that isn’t particularly about miscarriages, but it is one that vents some frustration for any would-be mothers who see others getting to experience the love they want for themselves.
25. Giving You Back – Robyn
If there is any solace in losing a child, it’s that the child immediately went back to their Creator and is going to be kept safe. That’s the real message of Giving You Back, though you’ll always wish you didn’t have to give them back.
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